18 June 2018

Talk with your children about bystanders

Bullying involves more than the students who are bullied and those who bully others. Bullying often continues because people who are involved do not talk about it and seek help. This includes people who observe bullying - the bystanders. A bystander is someone who witnesses the bullying or knows that it is happening to someone else.

Bullying Situation Chart

Contributor / Witness / Supporter / Ringleader

There may be bystanders who are afraid they may be bullied next and this may influence their decision about what they will do if they see bullying happening.

There are different types of bystanders and in this model, they are described as:

Contributors - This group offer support to the person bullying, either by helping the person to bully the other person or by encouraging the bullying. This group might gather to watch the incident. Sometimes from concern for the person being bullied or to see what will happen and sometimes for enjoyment.

Supporters - This group dislikes the bullying, is concerned for the person being bullied and actively tries to help the person being bullied.

What can bystanders do?

If students see another student being bullied they should:

  • Ask a teacher or support person for help
  • Let the person doing the bullying know that what they are doing is bullying and is wrong
  • Refuse to join in with the bullying and walk away
  • Support the student who is being bullied
  • Support their friends and protect them from bullying (children who are alone are more likely to be the target of bullying, so encourage your children to be aware of children who are left out or on their own in the schoolyard).

Mr Warwick Norman
Friendly Schools Coordinator